Not in a sad way. I don’t cry big tears. And I don’t wear a long face because you are gone. What I miss is not sharing what my life has become with you.

Daddy, I know you would have probably asked me a million questions as to why I wouldn’t stick it out just another 5 years before I retired. And after many discussions, you’d stare off into the view quietly letting me know that even though you may not fully agree, you’d be right there supporting me all the way, as you always did. But believe me you’d be so happy for me now seeing the genuine smile on my face as I enjoy the simple things in life. Sunsets, walking on the beach any day of the week, sibling hotdog nights, gardening, traveling, sewing. Spending quality time with those who matter the most to me. My freedom to do what most pleases me.

Mum, you would be right there smiling at my side sharing special moments in my ‘cosy corner’ as we pull out pieces of fabric to make quilts together. Choosing the colours, laughing at the small pieces of fabric you saved years before, the ones I begged you to throw away, happy now to include them in a one-of-a-kind treasure for the grandkids. You would encourage me as I make my mistakes and smile a proud smile as I showed it off to you.

The boys have grown and flown the nest. Just like you warned. I know you’d be as proud of them as I am. They love like you taught us. And have made strong bonds like you showed us. They are loyal, strong and determined. And just like you had hoped, they’ve brought a special joy to my life.

The grandkids. Oh, the grandkids. You would love them, and they would love you right back. Dad with your always ready for a hug arms. Mum always ready to serve them their favourite treat. With your smile so gentle and your laugh so contagious. And of course, Dad, they all look just like you. The boys would be jumping all over the place as boys do, and the girls would have you wrapped ever so tightly around your little finger. And yes, as an answer to your prayers, I have been blessed with not one but two granddaughters.

The one thing that would make your face wince though is that they live so far away. But we’d Facetime them on your visits home and you would laugh and chat with them, always in awe at what technology could do.

But most of all I miss seeing you, kissing you hello and hugging you goodbye. Knowing that I could come visit you any day, any time.